For the first part of this two-part series, I had H (the boyfriend) come over and help me out and give you some tips on surviving a long distance relationship. H and I spend every summer (~2 months) about 800 miles apart. You can read part one here. How do I live without this stellar human being? Read on.
Be intentional about communicating. I work a lot during the summer and because of that, H and I don’t find a lot of time to talk. But you’ve got to show your boyfriend that they still deserve your time. I’ll call H whenever I can–on the walk home from work, or sometimes when I get off my shift at midnight. Yes, I’m exhausted at that point, but it’s worth it to be the time into our relationship.
Send letters and care packages. It’s really special to have something tangible with you that you know your boyfriend or girlfriend has touched and put together. Letters are cheap and always fun to get. Care packages can be cheap too–fill it up with little things that remind you of them wherever you are. Encourage them to send you one too!
Be really honest. Really really really honest. When you’re not face to face, it’s really easy to misunderstand things or not notice how the other person is feeling. It may feel tough, but it’s best to be honest about how you’re feeling about things. If you’re angry, don’t push it down and let it boil up–deal with it. If you’re in a bad mood, don’t just be grumpy–admit you’re in a bad mood. When I’m in a funk, I always tell H and he’ll send me pictures of cute animals or bad jokes or funny internet articles until I can cheer up a little.
Trust each other. This one sometimes seems really tough to do, but it will make both of you infinitely more happy with the relationship. I try to let H do pretty much whatever he wants as long as it doesn’t hurt him or us. Hopefully, you’re with someone who makes trusting easy but sometimes you might not be. Don’t be controlling and set rules for each other–you need to trust your boyfriend that he’ll be honorable.
Are you in a long distance relationship? How did you make it work?